“We had wanted to have a child for a long time and we could not, we knew something was happening, and every time some friends told us they were expecting a child, we felt bad because we were not happy enough. We were happy but we also said: because they can and we can not. It sounds selfish, but it was like that and we could not avoid it. But we could only show that we were excited when really the sadness we felt surpassed us…”.
It is not a totally real story but it could be. This is the feeling of many people who want to have a child and do not get it by themselves. Every day more people go to a reproduction center for their desire to have a child. The number of treatments grows year after year and some 15,000 children are born as a result of treatments, which is 3% of the total.
However, although it is increasingly common, people or couples who face it, do so for the first time normally, and are not prepared to the fact that getting a desired pregnancy can become difficult. Many times, it is usually kept in private or spoken in small environments, either because of doubts or the uncertainty of success of the process, which can be hard, and because it is still largely taboo in our society.
For all this, it is of vital importance that when a couple has been trying for a year or more to have a child and can not get it, it is necessary to go to a clinic. At that time we must take into account a number of factors to choose the most appropriate clinic. The humane treatment of the doctor and his team is key. It has to be close and personalized because they will be the ones who will guide and be at the side of the person at all times. It is also important to assess whether there is a waiting list or not and if they can adapt to your schedules, and if you can, ask other people who may have gone through the same. And obviously you have to look at pregnancy success rates: a clinic that offers rates above the average is synonymous with working well. When you decide to move forward, it may seem that time passes much more slowly, and we have to find the place that helps us and do it as agile and flexible as possible.
The combination of all these aspects should facilitate the decision. But a good part of the success of any treatment is to make a good diagnosis to be able to give an accurate reproductive advice and that can provide the desired results. It is very important to individualize each case and not offer superior techniques if there are none, or inferior ones if they will not help to get pregnant with the necessary expectations, and this can only be done with a good medical examination and with the support of the necessary tests.
Before starting, you will have to make a first medical visit with a gynecologist specializing in sterility, which will explain the process to follow, the medication schedule, the days on which rest is advised, the results or the possible risks of the technique.
We must not forget the psychological and emotional aspect. Couples or women who embark on the journey to motherhood/fatherhood through the use of assisted reproduction techniques go through a process of medical tests and treatments that in some cases becomes a long and/or stressful experience. Numerous studies have analyzed the psychological impact of sterility / infertility on the quality of life and well-being of people who go through situations like these. Although it has been shown that the level of stress or the emotional imbalance that this situation can pose is variable in each individual and is not presented in a general way. It is known that in situations of stress, mechanisms are put in place to mitigate these effects.
Anyway, there are clinics that by their way of working can tell that, either at the first or after some cycles, they offer numerous guarantees to make real the dream of being a mother. Some of them, who have already gone through that, would say: “Some people will need more help and others will cost less, but most likely you will get it, so be strong, you know it will be worth it.”
Assisted Reproduction Service / Embriogyn